Structure of a Christian Family

 Structure of a Christian Family

We find that most Christian families operate according to the systems of the world. The roles of the members of the family have shifted from that prescribed in the Scriptures. Consequently, there are square pegs in round holes! Instead of experiencing the joy in fulfilling GOD's purpose, the family members are stressed, and there is strife in Christian homes. 

 And the Lord God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; 

I will make him a helper comparable to him." 

Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field 

and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam 

to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called 

each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, 

to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. 

But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. 

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; 

and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 

Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man 

He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. 

And Adam said: "This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; 

She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man." 

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, 

the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Genesis 2:18-25

Unless the Lord builds the house, They labor in vain who build it; 

Unless the Lord guards the city, The watchman stays awake in vain. 

It is vain for you to rise up early, To sit up late, To eat the bread of sorrows; For so He gives His beloved sleep. 

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, 

The fruit of the womb is a reward. 

Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, 

So are the children of one's youth. 

Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; 

They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.

Psalm 127:1-5

Many women are in secular careers and are kept busy in offices. Thus their homes and families are neglected. The husbands have wives who are not there to play the role of a wife. The children have mothers who are busy at work and have no time to spend with them. Most kids are put into childcare centres throughout the day. They grow up without receiving much love, guidance and security from their parents. 

Blessed is every one who fears the Lord, Who walks in His ways. 

When you eat the labor of your hands, You shall be happy, 

and it shall be well with you. 

Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine In the very heart of your house, 

Your children like olive plants All around your table. 

Behold, thus shall the man be blessed Who fears the Lord. 

The Lord bless you out of Zion, 

And may you see the good of Jerusalem All the days of your life. 

Yes, may you see your children's children. 

Peace be upon Israel!
Psalm 128:1-6

 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. 

he heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. 

She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.
Proverbs 31:10-12


Strength and honor are her clothing; 

She shall rejoice in time to come. 

She opens her mouth with wisdom, 

And on her tongue is the law of kindness. 

She watches over the ways of her household, 

And does not eat the bread of idleness. 

Her children rise up and call her blessed; 

Her husband also, and he praises her:
Proverbs 31:25-28

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, 

that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, 

may be won by the conduct of their wives, 

when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 

Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, 

wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-- 

rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, 

with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, 

which is very precious in the sight of God. 

For in this manner, in former times, the holy women 

who trusted in God also adorned themselves, 

being submissive to their own husbands, 

as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are 

if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. 

Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, 

giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, 

and as being heirs together of the grace of life, 

that your prayers may not be hindered. Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, 

be courteous; not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, 

but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, 

that you may inherit a blessing.

1 Peter 3:1-9

 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 

"Honor your father and mother," 

which is the first commandment with promise: 

"that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth." 

And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, 

but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
Ephesians 6:1-4

if a man is blameless, the husband of one wife, 

having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination. 

 For a bishop must be blameless, as a steward of God, not self-willed, 

not quick-tempered, not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, 

 but hospitable, a lover of what is good, sober-minded, just, holy,

self-controlled, holding fast the faithful word as he has been taught, 

that he may be able, by sound doctrine, 

both to exhort and convict those who contradict.
Titus 1:6-9

 The wise woman builds her house, 

But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.

Proverbs 14:1

The home of a Christian should have an atmosphere of peace and joy as the members of the family love one another as our LORD JESUS Himself commanded. The LORD loves us selflessly. Such should be our love for others!  

 This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.
John 15:12


 Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, 

and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; 

even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. 

But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. 

And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, 

to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. 

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, 

teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns 

and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.
Colossians 3:12-16

Rather than fancy wall hangings, let the word of GOD be portrayed on our walls. Let priority be placed on studying and obeying the word. Let there be personal and family prayer and let JESUS be made comfortable in our homes! Let us not displease Him in any way by anger and strife nor dishonour Him by living according to worldly standards and placing our trust in the systems of this world.

Let praises arise from our hearts and voices and the music systems in our homes!

Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established; 

By knowledge the rooms are filled With all precious and pleasant riches.
Proverbs 24:3-4

ESTHER - 2

ESTHER - 2

Chapter 2

Submission and favor

Esther 2:7

And Mordecai had brought up Hadassah,

that is, Esther, his uncle's daughter,

for she had neither father nor mother.

The young woman was lovely and beautiful.

When her father and mother died,

Mordecai took her as his own daughter.

Just as Esther was adopted by Mordecai

We have been adopted  

To be called the children of GOD.

Romans 8:15

For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear,

but you received the Spirit of adoption

by whom we cry out, "Abba, Father."

Esther 2:9

Now the young woman pleased him,

and she obtained his favor;

so he readily gave beauty preparations to her,

besides her allowance.

Then seven choice maidservants were provided for her

from the king's palace,

and he moved her and her maidservants

to the best place in the house of the women.

When we are ushered into the Kingdom of GOD

we are given the wholesome Holy Spirit

depicted by the seven maidservants.

GOD’S grace brings us under His favor

enabling us to receive more than what we deserve.

This favor also gives us favor in the eyes of people.

Esther 2:10

Esther had not revealed her people or family,

for Mordecai had charged her not to reveal it.

Esther 2:20

Now Esther had not revealed her family and her people,

just as Mordecai had charged her,

for Esther obeyed the command of Mordecai

as when she was brought up by him.

Esther 2:15

Now when the turn came for Esther

the daughter of Abihail the uncle of Mordecai,

who had taken her as his daughter,

to go in to the king,

she requested nothing

but what Hegai the king's eunuch,

the custodian of the women, advised.

And Esther obtained favor

in the sight of all who saw her.

The submissive attitude portrayed by Esther

drew her into the favor of people.

A girl should obey her father

and then her husband

and should carry the attitude of submission at all times.

Such a gentle and quiet spirit

gives her the inner beauty.

Even if I have the liberty to decide,

do I still take advice?

1 Peter 3:1-6

Wives, likewise,

be submissive to your own husbands,

that even if some do not obey the word,

they, without a word,

may be won by the conduct of their wives,

when they observe your chaste conduct

accompanied by fear.

Do not let your adornment

be merely outward-

-arranging the hair, wearing gold,

or putting on fine apparel-

- rather let it be the hidden person of the heart,

with the incorruptible beauty

of a gentle and quiet spirit,

which is very precious in the sight of God.

For in this manner,

in former times,

the holy women who trusted in God

also adorned themselves,

being submissive to their own husbands,

as Sarah obeyed Abraham,

calling him lord,

whose daughters you are

if you do good

and are not afraid with any terror.

Esther 2:12

Each young woman's turn came

to go in to King Ahasuerus

after she had completed twelve months' preparation,

according to the regulations for the women,

for thus were the days of their preparation apportioned:

six months with oil of myrrh,

and six months with perfumes

and preparations for beautifying women.

Daniel 12:10

"Many shall be purified,

made white, and refined,

but the wicked shall do wickedly;

and none of the wicked shall understand,

but the wise shall understand.

The LORD Himself purifies and beautifies us spiritually as His Bride.

Ephesians 5:25-28

Husbands, love your wives,

just as Christ also loved the church

and gave Himself for her,

that He might sanctify and cleanse her

with the washing of water by the word,

that He might present her to Himself

a glorious church,

not having spot or wrinkle

or any such thing,

but that she should be holy

and without blemish.

So husbands ought to love their own wives

as their own bodies;

he who loves his wife loves himself.

Esther 2:13

Thus prepared,

each young woman went to the king,

and she was given whatever she desired

to take with her from the women's quarters

to the king's palace.

An offering is a gift of freewill to the LORD.

Esther 2:16 So Esther was taken to King Ahasuerus, into his royal palace, in the tenth month, which is the month of Tebeth, in the seventh year of his reign.

The seventh year speaks about completion.

Entering into an intimate relationship

with the LORD

gives one the potential

to have a life of fulfilment and completion.

Colossians 2:6,10

As you therefore

have received Christ Jesus the Lord,

so walk in Him,..

.. and you are complete in Him,

who is the head of all principality and power.

Esther 2:17

The king loved Esther

more than all the other women,

and she obtained grace and favor in his sight

more than all the virgins;

so he set the royal crown upon her head

and made her queen instead of Vashti.

The spiritual Church will be chosen

and will replace the carnal Church.

Selflessness and Humility
will be the hallmark of the
Bride Of CHRIST.

Having spiritual understanding

and willingness to die to self

depicts the crown of life

on the head of the Bride of CHRIST.

Your spiritual mind

has to take over your carnal mind.

Has your mind been renewed

According to GOD’S word?

Revelation 2:10

"Do not fear any of those things

which you are about to suffer.

Indeed, the devil

is about to throw some of you into prison,

that you may be tested,

and you will have tribulation ten days

. Be faithful until death,

and I will give you the crown of life.

Philippians 2:5-9

Let this mind be in you

which was also in Christ Jesus,

who, being in the form of God,

did not consider it robbery to be equal with God,

but made Himself of no reputation,

taking the form of a bondservant,

and coming in the likeness of men.

And being found in appearance as a man,

He humbled Himself

and became obedient to the point of death,

even the death of the cross.

Therefore God also has highly exalted Him

and given Him the name

which is above every name,

Esther 2:18

Then the king made a great feast,

the Feast of Esther,

for all his officials and servants;

and he proclaimed a holiday

in the provinces

and gave gifts

according to the generosity of a king.

Revelation 19:7-9

"Let us be glad

and rejoice and give Him glory,

for the marriage of the Lamb has come,

and His wife has made herself ready."

And to her it was granted

to be arrayed in fine linen, clean and bright,

for the fine linen

is the righteous acts of the saints.

Then he said to me, "Write:

'Blessed are those

who are called to the marriage supper of the Lamb!'

" And he said to me,

"These are the true sayings of God."

Esther 2:21-23

In those days,

while Mordecai sat within the king's gate,

two of the king's eunuchs,

Bigthan and Teresh,

doorkeepers, became furious

and sought to lay hands on King Ahasuerus.

So the matter became known to Mordecai,

who told Queen Esther,

and Esther informed the king

in Mordecai's name.

And when an inquiry was made into the matter,

it was confirmed,

and both were hanged on a gallows;

and it was written in the book of the chronicles

in the presence of the king.

The fallen angel, the devil, sets snares

and works against GOD’S Kingdom

and GOD’S people.

It is the LORD

Who exposes the enemy’s evil plans

and He preserves us.

What the LORD has done is written in the Bible.